What does the virtuous woman mentioned in Proverbs 31:10 teach us Christian woman today?
Many Christians’ definition of a “virtuous woman” would center on prayer, Bible study, and spirituality. But God’s Scriptural portrait of the virtuous woman is surprisingly different.
The Bible speaks of the “virtuous woman”. Who is she? How does God in His Word describe her? Does she pray faithfully each day? Is she used in the gifts of the Holy Spirit? Does she consistently do daily Bible study and have regular devotional times? The answer? — None of these traits is listed in God’s most extensive Scriptural description of the virtuous woman.
Now please understand me, there is no doubt that the excellent attributes listed above are valuable aspects of the lives of every Christian woman (and man). However, God devotes almost an entire chapter of the Bible to His description of the “virtuous woman”. And the favorable traits that He lists are, surprisingly , of a substantially different nature. Proverbs 31:10-31, Proverbs 31:10, KJV Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies
How do we become her today? What did she do that was different?
i see that she kept herself busy, and had great godliness how do yu see her as a wife, as a person, homemaker, lover of God?
Also Christian men hhow do you perceive her as to today?
How does seeing her described bless you? Does it inspire you to be like her?
The Bible describes Ruth as a virtuous woman, even though there are also many other women in the Bible who can be seen as virtuous. Let’s look at the verse. 
"Then Boaz said, "Blessed are you of the Lord, my daughter! For you have shown more KINDNESS at the end than at the beginning, in that you did not go after young men, whether poor or rich. And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, for all the people of my town know that you are a VIRTUOUS woman." (Ruth 3:10-11)
So we see that Boaz regarded Ruth as a virtuous woman because she has shown kindness to her mother-in-law. We also see earlier that Ruth trusted in God’s favour (or grace), for she had said to Naomi, "Please let me go to the field, and glean heads of grain after him in whose sight I may find FAVOUR." (Ruth 2:2)
So a virtuous woman is one who puts her trust not in her own abilities, but in God’s favour, for only God can put her at the right place at the right time to be blessed and be a blessing. God did that for Ruth, and she ended up not only marrying the rich man Boaz and redeeming Noami’s inheritance, but also in the genealogy of our Lord Jesus Christ. Hallelujah!
One verse in Proverbs 31 that strikes me as a Christian man is Proverbs 31:30.
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised."
(Proverbs 31:30)
So a virtuous woman is someone who fears or reveres or worships the Lord. Indeed, she shall be praised because "her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her". (Proverbs 31:28) May we Christian men – when we are married – learn to praise our wives, because our praises will affirm our wives as virtuous women, and they will continue to blossom like a beautiful, radiant flower.
She is the perfect wife
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That we aren’t the perfect women yet. And we all have something we can work on.
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She wasn’t idle, and she found ways to make extra money for her family.
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The virtuous woman, the nation of Israel, was in and out of love with her husband, God. The virtuous woman was God’s desire for Israel, but He finally had to give her up and divorce her so He sent His son, Jesus to lead her. She rejected Jesus and He gave her over to the reprobate mind and accepted the followers of Jesus as the spiritual Israel. This was written to the nation of God’s own choosing who turned against Him.
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Having or exhibiting morally excellent this has nothing to do with prayer. it has to do with girls, and women not dressing like a slut, in clothes that grab attention from guys, to entice them in to entertaining thoughts of perverseness about you, idle chit chat among themselves of what they’d do to you if they could get you alone for a few fleeting moments full of lustfulness wanton thoughts about the fleshly makings of babies with out the after thought of really having one.
It is about how a woman holds herself in today’s society, to go against the norms and status quos of the jet set if you may, she proclaims her love for Jesus not only by the way she dresses, but how she acts, the way she walks, and talks. It is in her very fiber of not only her body but in her soul. One should be able to tell just by the way she acts towards others even the non believers, she lives the gospels. She does not go out and bang on doors pleading for the one that opens it to convert to her beliefs, but she sets the example for others and for them to see how she acts and no one can hold a candle to her for her light shines out and others may mock her, for her love of Jesus, and others will stand up for her, they will see her fairness in judgment towards even her enemies. She shows no partiality for Jesus showed no partiality. She will live and breathe Jesus, Eat and drink Jesus, his very flesh and blood. She will be Catholic.
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Ooo la la……..I really like this question!
Let us take an indepth look:
vs 10, She is rare and valuable. Few will find such a woman.
vs 11, She is TRUSTED by her husband, she is not his ‘slave’. He trusts in her reputation, with his wealth, to be faithful, tend the family and to do her part in teaching the children. He trusts her to make many decisions without his input, for which he will later praise her.
vs 12, She will not gossip about, laugh at or ridicule her husband. She causes him no harm.
vs13, She seeks the things that are used in the running of her household and puts her hands to the work of doing so.
vs 14, She shops from many vendors, near and far, spending the household money wisely. She is in search of value.
vs15, She is not lazy. Her days begans early and it starts with the feeding of her family and employees. She knows that food is fuel.
vs 16, Back in the marketplace, now she is considering property for a home. She will consider travel times, schools, and property values as well as activities for the family.
vs 17, She strengthens herself ( with God’s words) and with physical ability. Her many tasks are draining.
vs18, Her merchandise is good, she has bought well and seen to having enough provisions.
vs 19, Again, she does the necessary tasks, and get her chores done and out of the way, so that she will be available in-
vs 20, to attend to the needs of others.
vs 21, She sees what hardships others around her often endure,. She takes it in stride, knowing she has done her best to provide for her family.
vs 22, Her clothing and appearance have been earned and represent quality and thrift, ( as seen by her seamstress skills).
vs 23, She has married a well respected and Godly man. He too, is an admired and productive citizen.
vs 24, She puts her skills into the marketplace and helps to earn the family’s living. Her gardening, candlemaking, soapmaking , weaving and other skills have been replaced with more modern ones. Today, she is often in the workplace.
vs 25, She has emotional strength and is honorable. These traits will help her to endure whatever comes her way with grace and dignity.
vs 26, She is wise and kind when she speaks. She is not ‘harsh’, foul or given to idle gossip.
vs 27, She knows that is always something to be done, or to be done better. She does it without complaint or resentment.
vs 28, 29…….Not only does her husband recognize the quality of person she is and her contributions……but so do her own children, "rise up" and call her blessed.
vs 30, 31….She may not be beautiful or "hot", but she is worthy, she has grace, she has earned a fine reputation for herself, she is known to be respectful of the Lord. She has no need to compete or boast, her actions speak for her and she has earned her due.
No, these passages do not instruct us to pray, study, go to church etc, it is a composite of the woman who has ALREADY given herself to the Lord. This shows the behavior and characteristics we should take on when we revere the Lord.
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This is a great question and one I think we all should think about. God’s word is full of examples of what godly women and men should be , and when it comes to a godly wife Proverbs 31 is a great place to see some important attributes. I think the first quality that sticks out to me, is she will be faithful to him. ( and a godly man should be to his wife too! )
Proverbs 31: 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
You see his heart safely trust in her. I feel like one of the things that’s talking about is someone you don’t have to worry if they are being unfaithful, you trust them and know in your heart that they would not do anything like that against you.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
We can see her heart is not only faithful to her husband, but she loves him so much that all she can think about is doing him good. How can she help and be a blessing.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
We can see that not only is she hard working, but she has a servant’s heart, she even serves those that should serve her.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She is a woman of vision and wisdom. She not only sees the vision she works toward it.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She is strong. I feel like she is strong in the Lord, her strength comes from God. The Lord’s strength is on her like a garment.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She recognizes what she has to offer, and she is diligent to look after the needs of those she loves.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She has a kind, compassionate, and giving heart. She thinks of others before herself.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
She does not fear what tomorrow holds, because she has prepared for it. If you think about this spiritually she has been diligent with her relationship with the Lord, and doesn’t fear tomorrow because she is ready for whatever comes. Her clothing of silk and purple could be the majesty and grace that is on her.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She is such a good wife that she brings her husband honor. ( I don’t believe she would be the type to run her husband down, in front of people )
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
I think all the attributes are clearly seen here. She is hardworking, strong, honorable and she shall rejoice in time to come. ( if we think about that in time to come means not right now, so it is someone who will persevere and not give up when things aren’t going as planned ) She is wise and from her wisdom ( that comes from God ) she feeds many. She also speaks kindness, and desires good for people. She looks after her family, and is not idle.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
She receives the blessing from her household, and she feels appreciated by those in her family. ( and she should! ) She in noble, and of an excellent spirit, there is something that makes her different from the rest of her peers, she is like a shining light. ( it is Jesus is her )
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
The thirtieth verse, one of my favorites. favor is deceitful. One of the things I believe this means is just because people have a friendly appearance you can’t assume that’s how they really are. Just because all your friends and family like her that doesn’t mean you should be married. Beauty is vain, how many people choose their mate just by how they look? I think that a person will be attracted to the person they should marry, maybe not at first but at some point. But I hope that attraction is more than just the physical. I hope it is more about the person that’s inside, and once you get to know a person who has these qualities that person’s beauty soars. Physical beauty fades with time or circumstance.But a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised. The number one quality above all else. She must love Jesus with all her heart. She must have that strong relationship with Him, it is more valuable than all the rest. The last verse I believe it means she has nothing to be ashamed of, she has been faithful, loving, caring, diligent, hardworking, used discretion and wisdom, she has been a blessing to all around her, and she has always put God first.
God bless you, and this is such a wonderful thing to consider.
Sincerely , Andrew
* I just seen your question about how seeing her described blesses us? It is a huge blessing, and I see these qualities as being more precious than gold and riches. To have someone like that to share your life with, to seek God together, to raise a family, to do all the things together that God would have you to.
Words can’t describe how much of a blessing that would be!
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The Bible describes Ruth as a virtuous woman, even though there are also many other women in the Bible who can be seen as virtuous. Let’s look at the verse.
"Then Boaz said, "Blessed are you of the Lord, my daughter! For you have shown more KINDNESS at the end than at the beginning, in that you did not go after young men, whether poor or rich. And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, for all the people of my town know that you are a VIRTUOUS woman." (Ruth 3:10-11)
So we see that Boaz regarded Ruth as a virtuous woman because she has shown kindness to her mother-in-law. We also see earlier that Ruth trusted in God’s favour (or grace), for she had said to Naomi, "Please let me go to the field, and glean heads of grain after him in whose sight I may find FAVOUR." (Ruth 2:2)
So a virtuous woman is one who puts her trust not in her own abilities, but in God’s favour, for only God can put her at the right place at the right time to be blessed and be a blessing. God did that for Ruth, and she ended up not only marrying the rich man Boaz and redeeming Noami’s inheritance, but also in the genealogy of our Lord Jesus Christ. Hallelujah!
One verse in Proverbs 31 that strikes me as a Christian man is Proverbs 31:30.
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised."
(Proverbs 31:30)
So a virtuous woman is someone who fears or reveres or worships the Lord. Indeed, she shall be praised because "her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her". (Proverbs 31:28) May we Christian men – when we are married – learn to praise our wives, because our praises will affirm our wives as virtuous women, and they will continue to blossom like a beautiful, radiant flower.
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Jimmy says it all,she is pleasant ,industrious,hard working ,respectful,and even her husband has good report so she has chosen someone who is noted for his wisdom.The women in this time period(not that this shouldn’t apply today infact it does apply) but in the community it was the husband who concerned himself with the spiritual matters and the woman looked after the household and family that was a good deal of work and note she still gets up and tends to them and her lamp does not go out.So even during the darkness she was prepared to work and supply the needs of her family.I see many woman today that work a full-time job and care for their families as well which is more then a full-time job and they still find time to do the spiritual things as well .I don’t think that they are appreciated as much as they should be but God appreciates all that they do and they are virtuous .God bless them all.they have their job cut out for them..
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She is a WIFE from God: read, PROVERB 19:14 -House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.
A true christian woman and man knows the doctrine for husband and wife.
Ephesians 5:23 – Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord: read up to 5:25
So if you want a good partner ask from God"
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http://www.angdatingdaan.org/
The Brother Eli Soriano Truth Podcast
Women today that call themselves Christian do not follow any Scriptural definition of the True Cristian women.
I know of women that live according to God’s holy word. Such women are holy and they dress, talk and live the true Christian woman’s life without debate or contentions. They are happy to be married, obey their husbands, bear one and only one husband’s children, are keepers at home love their husbands, love and nurture their one and only one husband’s children.
Most women proclaiming themselves to be Christians are C.I.N.O. – Christian in name only.
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King James Bible